As the New Year begins there is a sense of fresh beginnings, hopes for the coming year, and a focus on priorities. It is a time that inspires us to set goals and commit. And of course there are the infamous New Year’s resolutions. This tradition of resolutions goes back to the Babylonians and the Romans, who celebrated their new year during a different season, but had the same tradition of starting fresh. Both being heavy agricultural societies, it was their tradition to return farm equipment and settle up debts at the start of a new year.
Steeped in tradition and seasonal inspiration millions make New Year’s resolutions, but only a small percentage keeps their commitment or remembers their goals six months later. Why?
Resolutions fail because change is hard! To change a behavior it takes at minimum twenty-one days abstinence from the habit and usually twice that amount to no longer have temptation. Keeping with a changed behavior for twenty one days is particularly trying if the change has not been given the review it deserves. Change doesn’t just manifest at the snap of our fingers or the blink of our eyes. Change is a cyclical process that starts way before the action ever takes place.
Below are some tips to solidify the change you want to be!
Techniques to help you in your change
Raise your consciousness – Increase your understanding of how your behaviors affect your life. Become an objective observer of yourself. Are you overeating and under performing? When do you overeat? What do you overeat? What stops you from being active? Become familiar with what gets in your way. Awareness is a critical first step.
Social support and helping relationships - “Outing” yourself is a great technique to help in your change. Trying to eat healthier, quit smoking, become more active – tell your family, co-workers, and friends. Encourage them to join your team of support with friendly reminders or gentle pushes. Even better find a buddy to join you in change. Group and partner support continuously proves to be very effective in behavior change.
Cathartic stimulation – Finding something that creates an emotional reaction and motivation for you is a terrific tool. Are you losing weight so you can play more comfortably with your children? Put a picture of your kids on the fridge. Do you desire running in a race? Put a picture of the finish line on your mirror. Do you have a pair of jeans you want to fit into again? Hang them somewhere visible.
Self-evaluation and visualization – Hold the vision of who you will be when this change is complete. Picture in detail what you will look like when your behavior changes and also how it will affect your personality. The more vibrant the vision, the more powerful it becomes. Will changing this behavior change how you carry yourself, relate to others, or the way you are in the world? See the details of this change in Technicolor!
Environment control – Take away the temptations as much as you can. Create a living space conducive to your success. Take steps to remove temptations from your daily life.